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The number one thing that stunts channeling is self doubt. Second thing is the fear of information you can't control.
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July 22, 2014 (This was from yesterday) So I have this thing about driving. I overthink and I panic when things don’t go my way and I’m more of a planner so driving can be difficult for me sometimes. When Christy tried to comfort me to tell me that Kurt was a slow driver it launched this conversation at some point about it and she asked me to ask him what it was like for him driving on the road with everyone. He told me that Krist preferred to drive but also mentioned that it was also because Kurt didn’t drive as confidently. I didn’t assume that it was because he was a slow driver. I figured it could have been from anything. I’m airheaded so sometimes I don’t put 2 and 2 together even when its right in front of my face.
Both are apparently true. This is a Heavier Than Heaven snippet she just found. 


 

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July 22, 2014 (This was from yesterday)

So I have this thing about driving. I overthink and I panic when things don’t go my way and I’m more of a planner so driving can be difficult for me sometimes. When Christy tried to comfort me to tell me that Kurt was a slow driver it launched this conversation at some point about it and she asked me to ask him what it was like for him driving on the road with everyone. He told me that Krist preferred to drive but also mentioned that it was also because Kurt didn’t drive as confidently. I didn’t assume that it was because he was a slow driver. I figured it could have been from anything. I’m airheaded so sometimes I don’t put 2 and 2 together even when its right in front of my face.

Both are apparently true. This is a Heavier Than Heaven snippet she just found.

 
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Anonymous said: I have a real problem with being controlling, dependent, and comparing myself to other people. My ex especially brings this out in me but I want to be friends with him. I feel like I especially fall into these old patterns when I get closer to him. How do I stop? Thanks :))

talkingtodeadguys:

It sounds like your ex is a reflection of you. Doesn’t necessarily mean it’s a bad thing. It’s just a reality. I’m also going to thank you for being brave to take the first step to acknowledging that you have a problem and ANOTHER thank you to actually wanting to CHANGE it. This is why I do the work that I do :)

I’m going to make this into a dissertation post so people can read it and reblog it in case they need it -

Okay, I highly suggest that you read the ‘Control’ list of our Starter Pack we have at the top of our blog where it says, ‘Click Here If You’re New T2DG.’

But in short, they essentially say the same thing : If you are trying to control other people it means that you’re a naturally very controlled person. You’re very serious, practical, and you live your life where you generally want things done a certain way. Even if your life around you, your school bag, or the files on your computer are unorganized, you’re naturally drawn to structure. You freak out if things are unpredictable and you have a very formulaic way of thinking - You believe everything has a reason and a place and you observe things based on cause and effect. You’re naturally objective this is typically how you go about life. If there’s ever a loose cog in the system, you come undone because you prefer to work like a well oiled machine : You like to be productive and you’re naturally a perfectionist. If you do anything you like to be the best at it or make an impression of being amongst the best doing it. You may even have performance anxiety and self inflicted issues where you give yourself a hard time for not doing something ‘right’ or ‘the best’ the first time.

When you aren’t focused on controlling yourself and need validation, approval, or need to leech off of other people, you will become a control freak. This self inflicted anxiety will make you believe that unless people LIKE you ALL THE TIME in EVERY WAY POSSIBLE that you’re doing something wrong. So what you do is that you start trying to collect them and force yourself on them and over step your boundaries. You start objectifying them and you stop seeing them as people. You make them into validation-pets - You’ll want people to endlessly find you cool and it’ll bother you when you don’t have a steady flow of people telling you how pretty or wonderful you are. You’ll actually be like a receptive dog rubbing into their master’s hand because they’re being acknowledged. You make yourself into your OWN bitch. Hilarious right?

You stop being controlling by realizing that you don’t need anyone else’s approval other than your own and I highly recommend that anyone feeling as if they’re suffering from this problem to read those multiple articles I’ve written. I’ve used MYSELF as an example and I also lay it out quite thoroughly. You guys like informative things so you’ll appreciate a good read on the matter ;) That also flows into being dependent. It all stems from the root of supposedly “needing” validation and comfort from other people because you think you have a fucked up relationship with yourself. All of those articles go into an INSANE amount of detail about it.

As far as comparing yourself to others go, it doesn’t really work because they will NEVER be you and you will NEVER be them because it won’t work. They’ll always fall short and so will you and you have to realize that you can not monopolize other people’s experiences by trying to ‘steal’ them because you want to be good at something or better at it. I’ve had to learn this for a very long time. You stop by focusing on your OWN experience and realizing that you’re an amazing person. Point blank. You’ve got ISSUES but what you bring to the table is badass. You just have to remember to constantly be honest with yourself. If you’re NOTICING that you’re still displaying this behavior all you have to do is find out WHERE it comes from (News Flash - YOU) and keep that shit in check and be HONEST with yourself when you slip up.

  1. Learn to hold yourself accountable
  2. Learn to always be honest with yourself about your true intentions
  3. Learn that you can’t control A DAMN THING except for YOU


And you’ll be all set! :) <3

- Kami

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talkingtodeadguys:

The heart of channeling is good communication. The first level of it involves breaking down prejudgments and selectively hearing information. If you are the type of person who chooses to selectively hear information and you’re inconsiderate of a perspective or input from a person that’s completely different from your own you will not be able to channel well. This is crucial and should be discussed. If you do not want to hear someone else other than yourself, your channelings will be very debauched and broken. It will be the absolute reflection of how you treat others in reality – you will only hear what you want to hear and you will believe that no matter what you are told or what alternative you are offered – you are always right.  We’ve seen clairvoyants that can physically see the dead with their eyes that have much more experience than us in mediumship that fall victim to projections. They’ll create extensive channelings that have major pitfalls of being colored with the way “they” personally want to see the person and dictate how they behave. Upon observing them and knowing some of them personally we’ve noticed trends in their behavior. They wear social masks of seeming approachable and open but in reality they have very dogmatic perspectives and are reluctant to receive information that challenges the way they see the world. In life and death regardless of which plane you walk you will naturally see the world through a filter. On earth the way you are nurtured and your place in society will color your perception. However through out life these perceptions will be challenged and we will be forced to ask ourselves if our worlds and our history are the only ones that exist.  They are not. There are trillions of different worlds and perspectives. There will be some that you will believe and some that you do not believe. However what is important is how you treat that which you don’t understand. It comes back to how judgmental you are as a person. It comes down to whether or not you give people chances and provide opportunities for them to explain themselves. If someone would walk up to you right that that represented everything you hated – they had a lifestyle you disliked, had a socioeconomic background that made you cringe, and if they were completely different from you and you could never dream to understand them, would you give them a chance? Are you capable of seeing that others are capable of human complexity? That again – you are not always right?  Most people, we imagine, will say yes. In the trends we’ve noticed observing our own behavior and the behavior of some of those around us we have noticed a severe lack of open-mindedness – and this is where things get interesting.  If you are a judgmental person, your channelings will reflect the judgments you have on the other person. If you are talking to someone new for the first time the filter that you see them through blocks them from getting their message across. We naturally categorize and label the world around us to help us make sense of it however it has a downfall – we become so judgmental of one another that it slides into global dogmas of racism, sexism, and phobias and isms of every kind. That lack of understanding and willful ignorance keeps us stupid. In our perspective there will never be a Utopic society but we believe that we can all take steps towards being more considerate of and open to one another. Those little steps will help in the long run.  When I started channeling in 2012 (Kami) I was an extremely judgmental and dogmatic person. As a result my channelings were really awful and finding gems of useful information in all of that gunk was hard to come by. The beginning of this blog is my personal example of many judgments I’ve made and expectations about how the world around me should work. We had to delete a ridiculous amount of our content because I wanted to always be right. See how this is all connecting? It came down to me being very controlling, ugly, and monstrous as a person and I attracted many horrible experiences that reflected what I had in myself. I attracted low octave spirits and I made the people around me into things. I made Christina a thing, I made Raechel a thing, and I was completely conscious of what I was doing. Because of this awful behavior I’ve been able to launch so many articles explaining how, in detail, you shouldn’t do it. I’ve been the primary example for every single thing on this blog because I’m exactly what you get when you decide to come into channeling with a judgmental attitude.  Coming out of that has been a very difficult process but it only happened because I wanted for it to stop. I stopped making excuses, I began to hold myself accountable, and I stopped running from myself. It’s all intricately intertwined. Your feelings about yourself that you believe are more important than someone’s input will color the way you channel. Your belief systems of how you believe the world should work will block the other person completely. You will not always be told what you want to hear, hence why we promote so many messages and articles about not having expectations. It’s much deeper than not having conscious expectations when you channel. It’s also about how willing you are as people to let the other person on the other side of the line communicate. Are you an effective communicator?  It starts with selective hearing. If you are fully engaged in a conversation you will not tune the other person out. You’ll completely listen to what they’re saying and if not you will at least admit that you are distracted. In my day to day with Christina and Kurt this is what I’m working on. In our conversations I’m teaching myself to listen and be more considerate towards them. I’m not perfect but if I wander off or tune them out I ask if they could repeat the message or they drop it because of that rudeness. It’s essentially about having respect for the other person on the other end. When I typically channel these days I do my best to listen to the other person talk. Sometimes my mind will get in the way and I’ll have to ask for the other person to repeat it – again with how I am with my own friends, and I relay their messages to the person that needs that information. Learning to communicate effectively is literally about whether or not you want to listen to the other person. This is why in regular day life people will paint those around them with how they want to see them. In channeling this equates to projection. It depends largely on if you are valuing yourself more than the information. It’s a lot of psychoanalytic crap that you have to find in yourself to discover whether or not your channelings mirror your perspective and your belief system when channeling is meant to be about making you a messenger. If you order a pizza and the delivery guy makes unnecessary pit stops instead of coming straight to you would he be good at his job? Would you even tip him?  Great. Now why would anyone want to talk to you if all you do is tune the other person out?

talkingtodeadguys:


The heart of channeling is good communication. The first level of it involves breaking down prejudgments and selectively hearing information.
If you are the type of person who chooses to selectively hear information and you’re inconsiderate of a perspective or input from a person that’s completely different from your own you will not be able to channel well. This is crucial and should be discussed. If you do not want to hear someone else other than yourself, your channelings will be very debauched and broken. It will be the absolute reflection of how you treat others in reality – you will only hear what you want to hear and you will believe that no matter what you are told or what alternative you are offered – you are always right.

We’ve seen clairvoyants that can physically see the dead with their eyes that have much more experience than us in mediumship that fall victim to projections. They’ll create extensive channelings that have major pitfalls of being colored with the way “they” personally want to see the person and dictate how they behave. Upon observing them and knowing some of them personally we’ve noticed trends in their behavior. They wear social masks of seeming approachable and open but in reality they have very dogmatic perspectives and are reluctant to receive information that challenges the way they see the world. In life and death regardless of which plane you walk you will naturally see the world through a filter. On earth the way you are nurtured and your place in society will color your perception. However through out life these perceptions will be challenged and we will be forced to ask ourselves if our worlds and our history are the only ones that exist.

They are not. There are trillions of different worlds and perspectives. There will be some that you will believe and some that you do not believe. However what is important is how you treat that which you don’t understand. It comes back to how judgmental you are as a person. It comes down to whether or not you give people chances and provide opportunities for them to explain themselves. If someone would walk up to you right that that represented everything you hated – they had a lifestyle you disliked, had a socioeconomic background that made you cringe, and if they were completely different from you and you could never dream to understand them, would you give them a chance? Are you capable of seeing that others are capable of human complexity? That again – you are not always right?

Most people, we imagine, will say yes. In the trends we’ve noticed observing our own behavior and the behavior of some of those around us we have noticed a severe lack of open-mindedness – and this is where things get interesting.

If you are a judgmental person, your channelings will reflect the judgments you have on the other person. If you are talking to someone new for the first time the filter that you see them through blocks them from getting their message across. We naturally categorize and label the world around us to help us make sense of it however it has a downfall – we become so judgmental of one another that it slides into global dogmas of racism, sexism, and phobias and isms of every kind. That lack of understanding and willful ignorance keeps us stupid. In our perspective there will never be a Utopic society but we believe that we can all take steps towards being more considerate of and open to one another. Those little steps will help in the long run.

When I started channeling in 2012 (Kami) I was an extremely judgmental and dogmatic person. As a result my channelings were really awful and finding gems of useful information in all of that gunk was hard to come by. The beginning of this blog is my personal example of many judgments I’ve made and expectations about how the world around me should work. We had to delete a ridiculous amount of our content because I wanted to always be right. See how this is all connecting? It came down to me being very controlling, ugly, and monstrous as a person and I attracted many horrible experiences that reflected what I had in myself. I attracted low octave spirits and I made the people around me into things. I made Christina a thing, I made Raechel a thing, and I was completely conscious of what I was doing. Because of this awful behavior I’ve been able to launch so many articles explaining how, in detail, you shouldn’t do it. I’ve been the primary example for every single thing on this blog because I’m exactly what you get when you decide to come into channeling with a judgmental attitude.

Coming out of that has been a very difficult process but it only happened because I wanted for it to stop. I stopped making excuses, I began to hold myself accountable, and I stopped running from myself. It’s all intricately intertwined. Your feelings about yourself that you believe are more important than someone’s input will color the way you channel. Your belief systems of how you believe the world should work will block the other person completely. You will not always be told what you want to hear, hence why we promote so many messages and articles about not having expectations. It’s much deeper than not having conscious expectations when you channel. It’s also about how willing you are as people to let the other person on the other side of the line communicate. Are you an effective communicator?

It starts with selective hearing. If you are fully engaged in a conversation you will not tune the other person out. You’ll completely listen to what they’re saying and if not you will at least admit that you are distracted. In my day to day with Christina and Kurt this is what I’m working on. In our conversations I’m teaching myself to listen and be more considerate towards them. I’m not perfect but if I wander off or tune them out I ask if they could repeat the message or they drop it because of that rudeness. It’s essentially about having respect for the other person on the other end. When I typically channel these days I do my best to listen to the other person talk. Sometimes my mind will get in the way and I’ll have to ask for the other person to repeat it – again with how I am with my own friends, and I relay their messages to the person that needs that information.

Learning to communicate effectively is literally about whether or not you want to listen to the other person. This is why in regular day life people will paint those around them with how they want to see them. In channeling this equates to projection. It depends largely on if you are valuing yourself more than the information. It’s a lot of psychoanalytic crap that you have to find in yourself to discover whether or not your channelings mirror your perspective and your belief system when channeling is meant to be about making you a messenger. If you order a pizza and the delivery guy makes unnecessary pit stops instead of coming straight to you would he be good at his job? Would you even tip him?

Great. Now why would anyone want to talk to you if all you do is tune the other person out?

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"You need to learn to accept your flaws and forgive yourself."
─ Susan Mallery (via purplebuddhaproject)
1 day ago with 1883 notes
Anonymous said: wow seriously.. do you think you can ask him why I couldn't hear him even though I truly thought my mind was clear and what was he trying to say back.. LOL

talkingtodeadguys:

You’re focusing on a response. You have to leave your mind open to any way that Erik can contact you. Anything. Sensations, words, physical things, emotional things, etc. The idea of leaving yourself open comes from a certain amount of confidence that you have to learn to gain in yourself. That confidence doesn’t only apply to channeling. If you’re able to grow to become confident in yourself, even on the smallest level with other things you do (ex - applying for colleges, voicing your opinions, etc) where you build a trust in yourself then you apply it to channeling naturally. Because at that point you would be able to draw from that trust you have in yourself to know that you’ll eventually receive some kind of message.

- Kami

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"We can’t hate ourselves into a version of ourselves we can love."
─ Lori Deschene (via natashakills)
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Channeling Tip 2/13/2014

talkingtodeadguys:

Learning to channel from the ground up is all about learning as you go along. To this day I cringe when I recount the major and minor channelings over the past year and the first half of this blog that I’ve majorly fucked up and have experienced crucial learning lessons from.

Maybe this may be of help to some of you - But channeling for me is a process. I learned it as I went along and learning to do it for myself has been about undoing my fear of being wrong, my perfectionist attitude, and my need to control outcomes of situations. They’re all intricately intertwined. If you can start by relaxing more, learning to control yourself, and hold yourself accountable for your consequences and mistakes - your channelings will get better over time.

There is no “perfect” channeler. There is only a growing process. If you’ve been able to relate to me through our blog then perhaps you will learn the same way I have.

It’s all about the process of learning to let go and learn to rely on yourself and nothing but yourself - and that can be scary. Over time I hope that everyone reading this will grow more to rely on themselves <3 That’s what my personal growth process is all about.

- Kami

1 day ago with 9 notes
talkingtodeadguys:

As the main channeler between the two of us I’ve been trying to pick up new ways to improve how I channel. Very recently I discovered how to ground myself more and I wanted to share it with you all. In the past, (refer to our starter pack link - click), we’ve gone into detail about a form of grounding being related to building a relationship with the earth so it keeps you stable when you channel celestial information. It’s one way to prevent you from leaving your body and feeling dizzy when you channel because you’re receiving information outside of your body. Some people get really into it and start to drift off and come out of their channelings feeling disoriented. That has happened to me before. Feels like you just got off of a roller coaster and you’re trying to find your footing.  After you learn to let go, to not have any expectations, and to decide that you want to actually listen to the message you’re receiving, the next step is to build your own security. A few months ago Erik/Raechel told me that I needed to, “slow down,” and basically told me that I needed to ground myself. I had no idea what that entailed so I stumbled around and found out through trial and error. When you start building a sense of security it means that you decide that you want to rely on yourself for information. You believe that you’re capable and secure enough in yourself to receive what you channel. You can find a really detailed list of our guides dealing with these issues in our starter-pack.

This is the moment where you say, “I’m ready,” and you apply previous steps and start receiving the information without bias. Not being secure comes from this whole idea that you’re not good enough so you create blocks for yourself. Not everyone will have the same experience channeling but this is a pattern that we’ve seen that we’re addressing. If you’re ready to cross that threshold to be confident in what you channel then the next step is to give yourself your own anchor.  Some people like to use special grounding gems for their sacral chakras (gems, stones, etc), chant certain words of affirmation, or other methods according to their particular belief system. No matter what method you use what everyone’s getting out of it is exactly the same, you’re saying that you’re ready and secure to receive a message. We encourage anyone reading this to find a suitable anchor for them. You can go on Etsy, Ebay, and find a stone you can hold onto, or use google to search for other anchors for grounding techniques.  The next time you’re interested in channeling, you need to make sure that you check off a series of boxes in your head to prepare yourself for the information -  1 – Am I expecting a certain response?  2 – Do I want to listen to this person at this particular time? 3 – Am I conscious enough and relaxed enough to receive this message? 4 – Am I confident enough in myself that I feel secure?  Do not rush through these boxes. If you feel as if you’re expecting a certain response a good thing to do is to clear your mind and maintain objectivity. Let your mind wander a little and let it come back when you’re done wondering about the potential responses. What I do is that I explore both and when I can’t possibly think of anything else my mind settles and I’m able to focus. What’s important is that you focus your brain enough to not wander too far when you’re receiving the message. If it starts wandering while someone’s talking all you have to do is bring it back and ask to hear that part of the message again. I do this with Kurt all the time. Sometimes he’ll go off on a tangent and I’ll lose myself a little and I’ll ask him to repeat phrases if I’m not sure that I’ve heard it properly because I was off somewhere else in my own mind. You get better with time. No one’s perfect at it. Not even me. Remember that it’s always fun to learn from your mistakes as long as you admit that they happen.  If you feel as if you’re not ready to channel you always have the option of doing it again later. Sometimes I’m too tired to channel and the information gets very misconstrued and lazy or I’m eating a huge meal and not in the mood to get anything lengthy so I channel when I’m not doing anything and I’m fully conscious. It’s good to channel when you’re fully ready for it so you can’t make excuses. That’s why we have a meditation guide to help put you in an environment where you can relax. This also applies to the third question. It’s good to not channel when you’re under a lot of emotional stress because it might paint your channeling with that emotion or it’ll be hard for you to focus. It’s good to channel when you’re relaxed and you’re not focused on anything but the information.  Number four took me a while to really get comfortable with. I gained confidence but I lacked inner security that I could rely on myself. Recently I’ve decided that I’m secure enough in myself to trust my channelings and it became easier for me to ground myself. The grounding is basically your confidence and knowing that you can always rely on yourself. It’s trust. That’s why anchors are so important. My personal anchor is this little physical practice I do where I clasp my hands together like I’m grabbing one of them and I send little pulses through them when I tell myself that I’m grounding. You don’t have to do this because you and I are going to find that different things make us more comfortable individually. It could be that your anchor is a particular necklace your aunt gave you because you feel as if it brings you closer to yourself and it gives you security. “Security” is the key word here. When you are secure in yourself then you can be secure enough to channel.  What’s also good to know is that again, no one is perfect. You will not always have channelings that happen seamlessly. Sometimes your mind will wander, you’ll get distracted, or some of the details you channel may be inaccurate. Channeling is not about proving, “facts” or getting things “right” the first time. It’s about opening yourself to another method of communicating with someone. If you’re on the phone with someone and there’s static on the other end and you can’t do anything about it you’re going to keep trying because you care enough to open communication with them. That’s how it works. It’s just a matter of trying and trying again because managing to communicate is the most important thing. It isn’t about stressing over perfecting it and this is something that I’m managing to wrap my head around after nearly 2 years of practicing channeling on my own.  Also remember that we have a variety of guides in our Tips section (Click Here) to help you as well. Our inbox is also open. We suggest that you go through the entire tag itself if you really feel as if you need extra encouragement.  Happy communicating!  Refer to the spiritual section in our starter-pack link and comb through our tips section. There are loads of goodies in there that you can learn from if you’re interested.  - Kami

talkingtodeadguys:

As the main channeler between the two of us I’ve been trying to pick up new ways to improve how I channel. Very recently I discovered how to ground myself more and I wanted to share it with you all. In the past, (refer to our starter pack link - click), we’ve gone into detail about a form of grounding being related to building a relationship with the earth so it keeps you stable when you channel celestial information. It’s one way to prevent you from leaving your body and feeling dizzy when you channel because you’re receiving information outside of your body. Some people get really into it and start to drift off and come out of their channelings feeling disoriented. That has happened to me before. Feels like you just got off of a roller coaster and you’re trying to find your footing.

After you learn to let go, to not have any expectations, and to decide that you want to actually listen to the message you’re receiving, the next step is to build your own security. A few months ago Erik/Raechel told me that I needed to, “slow down,” and basically told me that I needed to ground myself. I had no idea what that entailed so I stumbled around and found out through trial and error. When you start building a sense of security it means that you decide that you want to rely on yourself for information. You believe that you’re capable and secure enough in yourself to receive what you channel. You can find a really detailed list of our guides dealing with these issues in our starter-pack.

This is the moment where you say, “I’m ready,” and you apply previous steps and start receiving the information without bias. Not being secure comes from this whole idea that you’re not good enough so you create blocks for yourself. Not everyone will have the same experience channeling but this is a pattern that we’ve seen that we’re addressing. If you’re ready to cross that threshold to be confident in what you channel then the next step is to give yourself your own anchor.

Some people like to use special grounding gems for their sacral chakras (gems, stones, etc), chant certain words of affirmation, or other methods according to their particular belief system. No matter what method you use what everyone’s getting out of it is exactly the same, you’re saying that you’re ready and secure to receive a message. We encourage anyone reading this to find a suitable anchor for them. You can go on Etsy, Ebay, and find a stone you can hold onto, or use google to search for other anchors for grounding techniques.

The next time you’re interested in channeling, you need to make sure that you check off a series of boxes in your head to prepare yourself for the information -

1 – Am I expecting a certain response?
2 – Do I want to listen to this person at this particular time?
3 – Am I conscious enough and relaxed enough to receive this message?
4 – Am I confident enough in myself that I feel secure?

Do not rush through these boxes. If you feel as if you’re expecting a certain response a good thing to do is to clear your mind and maintain objectivity. Let your mind wander a little and let it come back when you’re done wondering about the potential responses. What I do is that I explore both and when I can’t possibly think of anything else my mind settles and I’m able to focus. What’s important is that you focus your brain enough to not wander too far when you’re receiving the message. If it starts wandering while someone’s talking all you have to do is bring it back and ask to hear that part of the message again. I do this with Kurt all the time. Sometimes he’ll go off on a tangent and I’ll lose myself a little and I’ll ask him to repeat phrases if I’m not sure that I’ve heard it properly because I was off somewhere else in my own mind. You get better with time. No one’s perfect at it. Not even me. Remember that it’s always fun to learn from your mistakes as long as you admit that they happen.

If you feel as if you’re not ready to channel you always have the option of doing it again later. Sometimes I’m too tired to channel and the information gets very misconstrued and lazy or I’m eating a huge meal and not in the mood to get anything lengthy so I channel when I’m not doing anything and I’m fully conscious. It’s good to channel when you’re fully ready for it so you can’t make excuses. That’s why we have a meditation guide to help put you in an environment where you can relax. This also applies to the third question. It’s good to not channel when you’re under a lot of emotional stress because it might paint your channeling with that emotion or it’ll be hard for you to focus. It’s good to channel when you’re relaxed and you’re not focused on anything but the information.

Number four took me a while to really get comfortable with. I gained confidence but I lacked inner security that I could rely on myself. Recently I’ve decided that I’m secure enough in myself to trust my channelings and it became easier for me to ground myself. The grounding is basically your confidence and knowing that you can always rely on yourself. It’s trust. That’s why anchors are so important. My personal anchor is this little physical practice I do where I clasp my hands together like I’m grabbing one of them and I send little pulses through them when I tell myself that I’m grounding. You don’t have to do this because you and I are going to find that different things make us more comfortable individually. It could be that your anchor is a particular necklace your aunt gave you because you feel as if it brings you closer to yourself and it gives you security. “Security” is the key word here. When you are secure in yourself then you can be secure enough to channel.

What’s also good to know is that again, no one is perfect. You will not always have channelings that happen seamlessly. Sometimes your mind will wander, you’ll get distracted, or some of the details you channel may be inaccurate. Channeling is not about proving, “facts” or getting things “right” the first time. It’s about opening yourself to another method of communicating with someone. If you’re on the phone with someone and there’s static on the other end and you can’t do anything about it you’re going to keep trying because you care enough to open communication with them. That’s how it works. It’s just a matter of trying and trying again because managing to communicate is the most important thing. It isn’t about stressing over perfecting it and this is something that I’m managing to wrap my head around after nearly 2 years of practicing channeling on my own.

Also remember that we have a variety of guides in our Tips section (Click Here) to help you as well. Our inbox is also open. We suggest that you go through the entire tag itself if you really feel as if you need extra encouragement.

Happy communicating!

Refer to the spiritual section in our starter-pack link and comb through our tips section. There are loads of goodies in there that you can learn from if you’re interested.

- Kami

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Anonymous said: Hey Kurdt how did you like to enjoy your relaxation time away from music. :)

"I collected toenails and door knobs. I had a welling collections of kidney stones. I wrote on a lot of writing paper and slept. Movies were my drug of choice."

- Kurt + Channeled by Kami

Anonymous said: Christy, thanks for sharing your really cool poems and art! I love how visual and raw they are! :) I was actually following your poetry blog without knowing you wrote them, and your poems sorta reminded me of Kurt's writing style! X) Oh and if you haven't already seen it, watch Pussy Riot: A Punk Prayer, I think you'll like it! Anyway, hope you guys have a great day! Thank you guys for always being so inspiring, helpful and honest! <3

You’re very welcome! Aww, thanks! Oh! Ahaha! Funny. I guess? I’d say our writing style is very different. His narratives are very much male narratives and he writes about how my vaginal fluids help him with his Alzheimers. He has his own beautiful style but its not mine. His process is also very stream of consciousness. I talk about it here, so I’d say its very different. I can’t write the way he writes exactly and he can’t really write the way I write.

We both write about very disturbing or dark subjects just from different vantage points and narratives, I think his writing style is very male (even wrote Polly from the male’s perspective) Mine of course isn’t. He’s very influenced by the male beat poets of the 50s early 60s. I mean, we have a lot in common, but then don’t. Not sure how to explain it. Its like comparing apples to pomegranates (thats my favorite fruit). They’re both fruits but they’re very different from each other.

Being with him I feel like it finally helped me find who I was and be comfortable with who I was because we’re so similar and he’s my core so we write about similar things but I don’t think its the same at all. We inspire each other but no thanks on being a clone of my husband.

One of my inspirations is Lydia Lunch and Kurt never had a thing for her as large as I do. Same with Sylvia Plath and Anne Sexton. They’re a huge inspiration. Ahaha! I try to do my own thing. Oh, yeah Pussy Riot is really cool! I’ll check that out. I am watching this right now. Its really fucking great. Aww, thank you! Aww!! Thanks! I hope you have a great day as well and keep being super sweet. =)

-Christy

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