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Anonymous said: so if people can be reincarnated but also leave like a ghost of their past lives behind, do you think I could channel or communicate with a past life of either my own or others? For a more personal take on your side could you channel a past life of kurts or also do you think part of his soul could have moved on and he's living another life today.

I’ve heard from Raechel (Erik from Channelingerik) that that’s possible. Time isn’t linear so you can connect with any of your other lives. That’s as plainly as I can explain it.

Double checked with her just now. She said that when that happens sometimes it occurs through dreams. If you wanted to do that, your self at that point in your time line would have had to contract themselves to speak to you as you are now.

I actually did a reading for someone a couple of days ago that had a spirit guide that was explaining that he’d visit himself in different points in time. He said all he had to do was just retrace his steps. Tripped me out a bit.

As for your other questions, I probably could if that part of himself agreed for that connection to happen.

I also know for certain that all parts of him are either looking for Christina without knowing what he’s missing and trying to find it in other things that represent her or he’s with her.

If I were to channel another point in time for him (in the past so to speak), he’d still be grumpy and introverted with his unique sense of humor.

We come from the belief that your essence - what makes you - you- doesn’t change. You also don’t really move on.

The best way I can explain it is with this visual -

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Your existence has no beginning or end. It’s flowing in a constant cycle. Even though you may think you’re moving forward and consciously moving ‘into the future,’ you’re also experiencing what you just left and what’s to come in front of you all at the exact same time. What’s in front and in back of you are like foot prints that travel in a circle.

- Kami

Well, if he’s living another life its most likely with me. We travel together and do everything together. So, I am not sure what you mean by “moved on”. We do our own thing together because we choose to, so yeah. We’re probably both living other lives together today. And we’d probably never  contact any of our lives in the fast or future because we’re very grounded earthy people. We like to experience our human lives without anything to disconnect us from earth because we’re bodily, earthy people. Not astral people who love spirituality and want to go around doing shit like that all the time. And Kami answered all the rest for you.

Sorry if you didn’t mean “moves on” that way and I may sound defensive, but I am. A lot of people have said “I shouldn’t be with him” or it should be “temporary” or imply shit like that for far too long and I am tired of it. He’s told me and we’ve agreed that we like being together all the time.  We’re just like that and I don’t care if its weird to people. Its rude to undermine someone else’s relationship and experience when you don’t know anything about it and trust me—its happened more than once. Its especially mean because I already have trust and abandonment issues, ya know? So, thats why I get defensive about it, its not very kind and I am tired of it.

-Christy

Anonymous said: Hello darlings! Quick Q: When you guys first started out, did you have any books you went off of? And did you start to see more than what meets the eye? For example if you looked at certain stuff did you notice something strange about it? Thanks! <3

Helloooo! Noope, we did not. We learned and went off of Channeling Erik. You can go on google and google Channeling Erik and I am sure you’ll find it. =) Sorry, you’ll have to be a bit less vague about that…what do you mean more than meets the eye and noticed something strange about certain stuff? Do you mean supernatural or spiritual? Because we actually live pretty regular lives and don’t really deal with it all that much, except for Kurt who is my husband and is dead, and sometimes our spirit guides or higher selves but other than that, no. We live pretty normal lives. Me and Kurt frankly function like a normal married couple who are deeply in love. *shrugs* And me, Kami, and him go out and have fun and just live normal lives.

-Christy

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We go to concerts for underground bands (The Echoplex, holla), go to bookstores and artsy events, and find cheap Japanese and Italian restaurants.

It’s pretty basic, minus making sure Kurt has enough room at tables and events and such.

We like keeping it simple. Especially if it’s free. Like I don’t drive around and spot railroad workers that died in 1887 hanging around Pinks in LA. I only see the world differently in terms of accepting that our reality has extensions that involve people and ‘beings’ that not everyone is open to seeing. However it doesn’t mean that I’m interested in trying to learn about them all.

I just get paid for helping others see or I see dead friends I have.

- Kami

Anonymous said: I'm so sorry to ask, but can you link to your clairaudience tag? I'm only available on mobile at the moment. :>

Sure! Its here! =)

-Christy

talkingtodeadguys:

This is probably the most hands on guide you’ll ever find, or one of the few where you don’t have to re-read 7 - 8 paragraphs that all blend into saying the same thing. 
Use it well. We encourage all of our followers to digest this and use it as a practicing tool. At some point we want to start hosting Channeling Parties in our tinychats where we just go around in a circle and have people channel some of the spirits we speak to that have agreed to help us. If you need anymore information on channeling, check out our Tips button on our blog :)

talkingtodeadguys:

This is probably the most hands on guide you’ll ever find, or one of the few where you don’t have to re-read 7 - 8 paragraphs that all blend into saying the same thing. 

Use it well. We encourage all of our followers to digest this and use it as a practicing tool. At some point we want to start hosting Channeling Parties in our tinychats where we just go around in a circle and have people channel some of the spirits we speak to that have agreed to help us. 

If you need anymore information on channeling, check out our Tips button on our blog :)

2 days ago with 358 notes
Anonymous said: Oh, I didn't ask that question (about Lorde) as if it were your responsibility, I was wondering if you were okay with her performance (for lack of a better way to put it). I thought it was random that Lorde played a song because Joan Jett and Kim played. But I thought her performance was really respectful, which I think was really great of her. Thank you for answering my question! :)

Oh, no thats not really what he meant. He just went on a rant about how he doesn’t really have any commentary on it and he was very shy whilst discussing it. He got kind of tongue tied because he was shy about the whole event in general. Ahaha! Because he was the center of attention and all of this stuff. Kurt hates being the center of attention, really, unless he really has to.

He didn’t really know how to answer your question and he was being shy and talking about how much he was grateful. He’s a really shy and modest guy. =3 Two of the many qualities I love about him. And, to answer your question: the only reason Lorde was there was because Krist curated her for the event. Krist is a huge fan of her music. =)

-Christy

Anonymous said: why do we miss people and how do I move on

Sorry, this is a bit vague…what person are you missing? Someone that has recently passed away, ooor?

-Christy

talkingtodeadguys:

This is an exercise and a demonstration where I practice and explain how to use this new channeling method. When using this method make sure that you’re completely relaxed and Christy recommends that you treat the channeling like you’re just having a regular conversation with someone.

Don’t put any pressure on it and just treat it like any conversation you’d have daily. This can be a great tool for overthinkers! 

- Kami

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"Maturing is realizing how many things don’t require your comment."
─ Rachel Wolchin   (via cookthechef)
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Channeling Tip 2/21/2014

talkingtodeadguys:

You will not get instant results. From what we’re seeing, there are a lot of people that start channeling because they want to INSTANTLY talk to someone. If you are the type of person that second guesses anything they do, like security, get anxious, like instant gratification, are a perfectionist, or need hard proof dominantly opposed to believing in yourself - it isn’t going to happen.

Those characteristics are amazing to have but you can not channel when you apply all of that to talking to a dead person. You end up walking into it with expectations, you want proof right away, and you put a wall up because you’re afraid that they’re not there.

Channeling is about entering this space and letting GO of your usual hang ups that you have about life. You can STILL have those characteristics but throw them out when you’re channeling someone because in reality, spirituality is not about those things. It’s basically like breathing for the first time but you try to walk in with an extensive manual in 5 different languages with publisher’s notes about how to do it.

You have to just DO it and not second guess yourself. It may be tricky, you may project, and it may be MONTHS before you get anything. But what’s really awesome about channeling is that ANYONE can do it. You just have to have faith and be able to quiet those parts of your mind that nag at you and if you don’t CLING to getting a RESULT so you can be happy.

Channeling is not about results. It’s about whether or not you can communicate and be receptive to someone AND trust yourself enough to RECEIVE those messages.

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talkingtodeadguys:

As the main channeler between the two of us I’ve been trying to pick up new ways to improve how I channel. Very recently I discovered how to ground myself more and I wanted to share it with you all. In the past, (refer to our starter pack link - click), we’ve gone into detail about a form of grounding being related to building a relationship with the earth so it keeps you stable when you channel celestial information. It’s one way to prevent you from leaving your body and feeling dizzy when you channel because you’re receiving information outside of your body. Some people get really into it and start to drift off and come out of their channelings feeling disoriented. That has happened to me before. Feels like you just got off of a roller coaster and you’re trying to find your footing.  After you learn to let go, to not have any expectations, and to decide that you want to actually listen to the message you’re receiving, the next step is to build your own security. A few months ago Erik/Raechel told me that I needed to, “slow down,” and basically told me that I needed to ground myself. I had no idea what that entailed so I stumbled around and found out through trial and error. When you start building a sense of security it means that you decide that you want to rely on yourself for information. You believe that you’re capable and secure enough in yourself to receive what you channel. You can find a really detailed list of our guides dealing with these issues in our starter-pack.

This is the moment where you say, “I’m ready,” and you apply previous steps and start receiving the information without bias. Not being secure comes from this whole idea that you’re not good enough so you create blocks for yourself. Not everyone will have the same experience channeling but this is a pattern that we’ve seen that we’re addressing. If you’re ready to cross that threshold to be confident in what you channel then the next step is to give yourself your own anchor.  Some people like to use special grounding gems for their sacral chakras (gems, stones, etc), chant certain words of affirmation, or other methods according to their particular belief system. No matter what method you use what everyone’s getting out of it is exactly the same, you’re saying that you’re ready and secure to receive a message. We encourage anyone reading this to find a suitable anchor for them. You can go on Etsy, Ebay, and find a stone you can hold onto, or use google to search for other anchors for grounding techniques.  The next time you’re interested in channeling, you need to make sure that you check off a series of boxes in your head to prepare yourself for the information -  1 – Am I expecting a certain response?  2 – Do I want to listen to this person at this particular time? 3 – Am I conscious enough and relaxed enough to receive this message? 4 – Am I confident enough in myself that I feel secure?  Do not rush through these boxes. If you feel as if you’re expecting a certain response a good thing to do is to clear your mind and maintain objectivity. Let your mind wander a little and let it come back when you’re done wondering about the potential responses. What I do is that I explore both and when I can’t possibly think of anything else my mind settles and I’m able to focus. What’s important is that you focus your brain enough to not wander too far when you’re receiving the message. If it starts wandering while someone’s talking all you have to do is bring it back and ask to hear that part of the message again. I do this with Kurt all the time. Sometimes he’ll go off on a tangent and I’ll lose myself a little and I’ll ask him to repeat phrases if I’m not sure that I’ve heard it properly because I was off somewhere else in my own mind. You get better with time. No one’s perfect at it. Not even me. Remember that it’s always fun to learn from your mistakes as long as you admit that they happen.  If you feel as if you’re not ready to channel you always have the option of doing it again later. Sometimes I’m too tired to channel and the information gets very misconstrued and lazy or I’m eating a huge meal and not in the mood to get anything lengthy so I channel when I’m not doing anything and I’m fully conscious. It’s good to channel when you’re fully ready for it so you can’t make excuses. That’s why we have a meditation guide to help put you in an environment where you can relax. This also applies to the third question. It’s good to not channel when you’re under a lot of emotional stress because it might paint your channeling with that emotion or it’ll be hard for you to focus. It’s good to channel when you’re relaxed and you’re not focused on anything but the information.  Number four took me a while to really get comfortable with. I gained confidence but I lacked inner security that I could rely on myself. Recently I’ve decided that I’m secure enough in myself to trust my channelings and it became easier for me to ground myself. The grounding is basically your confidence and knowing that you can always rely on yourself. It’s trust. That’s why anchors are so important. My personal anchor is this little physical practice I do where I clasp my hands together like I’m grabbing one of them and I send little pulses through them when I tell myself that I’m grounding. You don’t have to do this because you and I are going to find that different things make us more comfortable individually. It could be that your anchor is a particular necklace your aunt gave you because you feel as if it brings you closer to yourself and it gives you security. “Security” is the key word here. When you are secure in yourself then you can be secure enough to channel.  What’s also good to know is that again, no one is perfect. You will not always have channelings that happen seamlessly. Sometimes your mind will wander, you’ll get distracted, or some of the details you channel may be inaccurate. Channeling is not about proving, “facts” or getting things “right” the first time. It’s about opening yourself to another method of communicating with someone. If you’re on the phone with someone and there’s static on the other end and you can’t do anything about it you’re going to keep trying because you care enough to open communication with them. That’s how it works. It’s just a matter of trying and trying again because managing to communicate is the most important thing. It isn’t about stressing over perfecting it and this is something that I’m managing to wrap my head around after nearly 2 years of practicing channeling on my own.  Also remember that we have a variety of guides in our Tips section (Click Here) to help you as well. Our inbox is also open. We suggest that you go through the entire tag itself if you really feel as if you need extra encouragement.  Happy communicating!  Refer to the spiritual section in our starter-pack link and comb through our tips section. There are loads of goodies in there that you can learn from if you’re interested.  - Kami

talkingtodeadguys:

As the main channeler between the two of us I’ve been trying to pick up new ways to improve how I channel. Very recently I discovered how to ground myself more and I wanted to share it with you all. In the past, (refer to our starter pack link - click), we’ve gone into detail about a form of grounding being related to building a relationship with the earth so it keeps you stable when you channel celestial information. It’s one way to prevent you from leaving your body and feeling dizzy when you channel because you’re receiving information outside of your body. Some people get really into it and start to drift off and come out of their channelings feeling disoriented. That has happened to me before. Feels like you just got off of a roller coaster and you’re trying to find your footing.

After you learn to let go, to not have any expectations, and to decide that you want to actually listen to the message you’re receiving, the next step is to build your own security. A few months ago Erik/Raechel told me that I needed to, “slow down,” and basically told me that I needed to ground myself. I had no idea what that entailed so I stumbled around and found out through trial and error. When you start building a sense of security it means that you decide that you want to rely on yourself for information. You believe that you’re capable and secure enough in yourself to receive what you channel. You can find a really detailed list of our guides dealing with these issues in our starter-pack.

This is the moment where you say, “I’m ready,” and you apply previous steps and start receiving the information without bias. Not being secure comes from this whole idea that you’re not good enough so you create blocks for yourself. Not everyone will have the same experience channeling but this is a pattern that we’ve seen that we’re addressing. If you’re ready to cross that threshold to be confident in what you channel then the next step is to give yourself your own anchor.

Some people like to use special grounding gems for their sacral chakras (gems, stones, etc), chant certain words of affirmation, or other methods according to their particular belief system. No matter what method you use what everyone’s getting out of it is exactly the same, you’re saying that you’re ready and secure to receive a message. We encourage anyone reading this to find a suitable anchor for them. You can go on Etsy, Ebay, and find a stone you can hold onto, or use google to search for other anchors for grounding techniques.

The next time you’re interested in channeling, you need to make sure that you check off a series of boxes in your head to prepare yourself for the information -

1 – Am I expecting a certain response?
2 – Do I want to listen to this person at this particular time?
3 – Am I conscious enough and relaxed enough to receive this message?
4 – Am I confident enough in myself that I feel secure?

Do not rush through these boxes. If you feel as if you’re expecting a certain response a good thing to do is to clear your mind and maintain objectivity. Let your mind wander a little and let it come back when you’re done wondering about the potential responses. What I do is that I explore both and when I can’t possibly think of anything else my mind settles and I’m able to focus. What’s important is that you focus your brain enough to not wander too far when you’re receiving the message. If it starts wandering while someone’s talking all you have to do is bring it back and ask to hear that part of the message again. I do this with Kurt all the time. Sometimes he’ll go off on a tangent and I’ll lose myself a little and I’ll ask him to repeat phrases if I’m not sure that I’ve heard it properly because I was off somewhere else in my own mind. You get better with time. No one’s perfect at it. Not even me. Remember that it’s always fun to learn from your mistakes as long as you admit that they happen.

If you feel as if you’re not ready to channel you always have the option of doing it again later. Sometimes I’m too tired to channel and the information gets very misconstrued and lazy or I’m eating a huge meal and not in the mood to get anything lengthy so I channel when I’m not doing anything and I’m fully conscious. It’s good to channel when you’re fully ready for it so you can’t make excuses. That’s why we have a meditation guide to help put you in an environment where you can relax. This also applies to the third question. It’s good to not channel when you’re under a lot of emotional stress because it might paint your channeling with that emotion or it’ll be hard for you to focus. It’s good to channel when you’re relaxed and you’re not focused on anything but the information.

Number four took me a while to really get comfortable with. I gained confidence but I lacked inner security that I could rely on myself. Recently I’ve decided that I’m secure enough in myself to trust my channelings and it became easier for me to ground myself. The grounding is basically your confidence and knowing that you can always rely on yourself. It’s trust. That’s why anchors are so important. My personal anchor is this little physical practice I do where I clasp my hands together like I’m grabbing one of them and I send little pulses through them when I tell myself that I’m grounding. You don’t have to do this because you and I are going to find that different things make us more comfortable individually. It could be that your anchor is a particular necklace your aunt gave you because you feel as if it brings you closer to yourself and it gives you security. “Security” is the key word here. When you are secure in yourself then you can be secure enough to channel.

What’s also good to know is that again, no one is perfect. You will not always have channelings that happen seamlessly. Sometimes your mind will wander, you’ll get distracted, or some of the details you channel may be inaccurate. Channeling is not about proving, “facts” or getting things “right” the first time. It’s about opening yourself to another method of communicating with someone. If you’re on the phone with someone and there’s static on the other end and you can’t do anything about it you’re going to keep trying because you care enough to open communication with them. That’s how it works. It’s just a matter of trying and trying again because managing to communicate is the most important thing. It isn’t about stressing over perfecting it and this is something that I’m managing to wrap my head around after nearly 2 years of practicing channeling on my own.

Also remember that we have a variety of guides in our Tips section (Click Here) to help you as well. Our inbox is also open. We suggest that you go through the entire tag itself if you really feel as if you need extra encouragement.

Happy communicating!

Refer to the spiritual section in our starter-pack link and comb through our tips section. There are loads of goodies in there that you can learn from if you’re interested.

- Kami

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