T2DG Perfectionist Tip : Acknowledging & Growing From Failure
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So you fucked up huh?
I’ve had a lot of failures in my life but it wasn’t until recently that I started seeing them as opportunities to grow opposed to opportunities to victimize myself. I still go through little phases in the midst of acknowledging failures where I break down, cry a little, and become overwhelmed with frustration, but I eventually get to a point where I look at my situation objectively.
There are things that I’ve bombed - jobs in retouching I’ve bombed, friendships I’ve bombed, some earlier readings I’ve bombed, and all sorts of things that forced me to take things into perspective. It has to because that’s how transformation works. Imagine if the entire world just stayed stagnant. Imagine it for a second.
There wouldn’t be buildings, cures for diseases, products you love, foods you adore, people that inspire you, roads, subways, businesses, families, books, movies, education, or even ‘love’ itself. Everything runs on a plethora of mistakes - everything. If we lived in a perfect utopic society we theoretically wouldn’t be allowed to make mistakes in ourselves. Fuck your tween phases when you thought that Hot Topic and Bring Me The Horizon or that one obsession you had that you no longer admit to was your life. You wouldn’t be allowed to make those mistakes on the trip to discovery. Kurt used to think that he was a straight edge Christian when he was alive. That’s on record. Let that sink in for a second. Christy also used to think she was introverted and I thought I was extroverted and that I was destined to be famous.
If it wasn’t for all of those blunders we would literally cease to exist.
I think the measure of a person is how often they’re willing to rise from their mistakes. I do, I really do. So I invite anyone to look at themselves, honestly, not in some half assed, “I’m not going to look at the things I don’t like,” way and find out what they can learn from. That’s why this blog is designed to have you evaluate yourself and ultimately depend on yourself for everything. No one knows you better than yourself.
So when you go through life, I think it’s much wiser to look at failures that make you cringe or launch you into pits of sadness (lul) and use them as opportunities. I sound so preachy right now but I know someone out there probably needs to hear this. Christy and Kurt are very, "Oh fucking well, life goes on," about the whole thing. According to their philosophy on life they think that it doesn’t pay to make things so dramatic. Like I could be crying from the fact that I blew $23 on food that I didn’t end up eating at Warped Tour today. I’m wincing but I’m good.
So we say -
Don’t cry. Grow mothafucka. Do you want an eye roll from someone you know? No, I don’t think you want that.
Self evaluate, learn (meaning you take what you’ve acknowledged and apply it to the next similar situation that presents itself), and roll on.