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The number one thing that stunts channeling is self doubt. Second thing is the fear of information you can't control.
Anonymous said: I don't understand - why is everyone (that I love) around me either sick or dying? I just got better myself but I can't help them at all. Like what the hell is this supposed to reflect, or are we just unlucky? It's not funny - if this is supposed to be like a "spiritual lesson" it's really shitty.

I am sorry this is happening and loss can be a very awful and painful experience and I hope you take time for yourself to mourn, be around people you love, and let it all out. But, you’d have to ask your spirit guides this as we do not know anything about your contract. In our belief system you have set this up. No on else. So, no one else knows but you and people who are in the know about your contract AKA your spirit guides and of course your higher self. Hope this helped, sweetie, and I hope that this stage of your life gets better.

-Christy

annieelainey:

I’m through with crushes! It’s #LetsTalkTuesday so let’s talk about how crushes can be unhealthy!!


T2DG Follower Tip
 : We totally agree with this video. It’s also great to keep in mind that an unhealthy crush that involves fixation and all of that melodrama is a validation issue (click). You don’t need Alex from gym or Laura from Starbucks to validate you and make you happy. You can do it your damn self <3

9 hours ago with 307 notes
Anonymous said: Hey Kurdt what is your wildest story with the band. :D

"One time I kicked one of our amps into somebody’s face. It was during one of our shows and I hadn’t noticed it but Krist noticed and he tried to help the guy and it was all really embarassing. There have been times when I’ve been really drunk and tried to stage dive and almost got a concussion. One time I was really high..too high to perform and I tried to sing everything backwards."

+ This one came out kind of groggy but he apparently had some sort of hallucination once that he couldn’t find his shoes or he like switched everyone’s shoes or something?

- Kurt + Channeled by Kami

talkingtodeadguys:

How To Spot Faux-Insecurity - 
Contrary to popular belief, for some people, hating yourself is not a sign that you have low self esteem. When you have a life where you victimize yourself, martyr yourself, don’t self evaluate or hold yourself accountable and you’re under the impression that any negative self talk is ‘insecurity,’ it’s actually a lie.
An enormous lie as plain as the nose on your face.
What you’re looking at is actually narcissism. Low narcissism actually. It’s narcissism where you pull a tactic where you decide to victimize yourself to the point where you use insecurity and self hatred as a way to avoid dealing with yourself. You demonize the world around you for problems that Y-O-U create and you shift the blame from yourself onto whatever else and you tell yourself that all of the bad things happen to you because you’re ~*insecure*~. We all have hang ups and insecurities, but this is a break down of the people that think they’re perpetual victims. They blame their parents, their friends, random civilians who don’t offer them compassion on the street, and everything except themselves. When this goes on for years at a time it comes so natural to them that they will wrap themselves up in a tight security blanket of self denial.
That self denial is meant to protect their fragile egos from accountability and it’s meant to soothe it like an upset child. It’s one of the lowest forms of narcissism.

talkingtodeadguys:

How To Spot Faux-Insecurity -

Contrary to popular belief, for some people, hating yourself is not a sign that you have low self esteem. When you have a life where you victimize yourself, martyr yourself, don’t self evaluate or hold yourself accountable and you’re under the impression that any negative self talk is ‘insecurity,’ it’s actually a lie.

An enormous lie as plain as the nose on your face.

What you’re looking at is actually narcissism. Low narcissism actually. It’s narcissism where you pull a tactic where you decide to victimize yourself to the point where you use insecurity and self hatred as a way to avoid dealing with yourself. You demonize the world around you for problems that Y-O-U create and you shift the blame from yourself onto whatever else and you tell yourself that all of the bad things happen to you because you’re ~*insecure*~.

We all have hang ups and insecurities, but this is a break down of the people that think they’re perpetual victims. They blame their parents, their friends, random civilians who don’t offer them compassion on the street, and everything except themselves. When this goes on for years at a time it comes so natural to them that they will wrap themselves up in a tight security blanket of self denial.

That self denial is meant to protect their fragile egos from accountability and it’s meant to soothe it like an upset child. It’s one of the lowest forms of narcissism.

14 hours ago with 8 notes
How To Spot Faux-Insecurity - 
Contrary to popular belief, for some people, hating yourself is not a sign that you have low self esteem. When you have a life where you victimize yourself, martyr yourself, don&#8217;t self evaluate or hold yourself accountable and you&#8217;re under the impression that any negative self talk is &#8216;insecurity,&#8217; it&#8217;s actually a lie.
An enormous lie as plain as the nose on your face.
What you&#8217;re looking at is actually narcissism. Low narcissism actually. It&#8217;s narcissism where you pull a tactic where you decide to victimize yourself to the point where you use insecurity and self hatred as a way to avoid dealing with yourself. You demonize the world around you for problems that Y-O-U create and you shift the blame from yourself onto whatever else and you tell yourself that all of the bad things happen to you because you&#8217;re ~*insecure*~. We all have hang ups and insecurities, but this is a break down of the people that think they&#8217;re perpetual victims. They blame their parents, their friends, random civilians who don&#8217;t offer them compassion on the street, and everything except themselves. When this goes on for years at a time it comes so natural to them that they will wrap themselves up in a tight security blanket of self denial.
That self denial is meant to protect their fragile egos from accountability and it&#8217;s meant to soothe it like an upset child. It&#8217;s one of the lowest forms of narcissism.

How To Spot Faux-Insecurity -

Contrary to popular belief, for some people, hating yourself is not a sign that you have low self esteem. When you have a life where you victimize yourself, martyr yourself, don’t self evaluate or hold yourself accountable and you’re under the impression that any negative self talk is ‘insecurity,’ it’s actually a lie.

An enormous lie as plain as the nose on your face.

What you’re looking at is actually narcissism. Low narcissism actually. It’s narcissism where you pull a tactic where you decide to victimize yourself to the point where you use insecurity and self hatred as a way to avoid dealing with yourself. You demonize the world around you for problems that Y-O-U create and you shift the blame from yourself onto whatever else and you tell yourself that all of the bad things happen to you because you’re ~*insecure*~.

We all have hang ups and insecurities, but this is a break down of the people that think they’re perpetual victims. They blame their parents, their friends, random civilians who don’t offer them compassion on the street, and everything except themselves. When this goes on for years at a time it comes so natural to them that they will wrap themselves up in a tight security blanket of self denial.

That self denial is meant to protect their fragile egos from accountability and it’s meant to soothe it like an upset child. It’s one of the lowest forms of narcissism.

1 day ago with 8 notes
"Stop comparing where you’re at with where everyone else is. It doesn’t move you farther ahead, improve your situation, or help you find peace. It just feeds your shame, fuels your feelings of inadequacy, and ultimately, it keeps you stuck. The reality is that there is no one correct path in life. Everyone has their own unique journey. A path that’s right for someone else won’t necessarily be a path that’s right for you. And that’s okay. Your journey isn’t right or wrong, or good or bad. It’s just different. Your life isn’t meant to look like anyone else’s because you aren’t like anyone else. You’re a person all your own with a unique set of goals, obstacles, dreams, and needs. So stop comparing, and start living."
─ Daniell Koepke (via hollywoodhepcat)
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"I use to care what people thought about me until one day I tried to pay my bills with their opinions."
─ Kim Scott (via alexandraelle)
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Anonymous said: Christy do you think are spirit guides can help us make better choices.

Uhm…yeah! If you ask them for help on certain things. They will give you advice and try to push you in the right directions but they will not make decisions for you or give you the answers.

-Christy

1 day ago with 1 notes
Anonymous said: I've dealt with mental illness too and theres a lot of people who tell me I'm a good person but, I still worry that they're either lying or theres other people who think it. I know I'm obviously no saint and never will be but whenever I catch myself doing something I see as bad or wrong, I demonize myself even if it's something small, sometimes to the point that i don't even know what to do with myself anymore and remain in a constant fear that im hurting people.

Well, is it chronic? I have schizophrenia, complex PTSD, and bipolar disorder and cannot treat them as I A, do not have the money and B, people would think me being married to Kurt was some kind of psychotic break. Which me and Kami have debunked privately. Because if you can get medication than I suggest you should. I have this problem as well, so I can empathize, but it essentially comes from my mental illness as well as my years of abuse.

Not sure where that comes from, for you or what kind of person you really are as I do not know you. If indeed you think this is a mental illness matter please go seek medical attention. I know why I have this issue but I wouldn’t know why you do because I don’t know you. The only way to stop the issue is to get to where it comes from.

For me I know it comes from my years of abuse as well as my mental illness, I also don’t know what kind of person you are really, I’d have to know you. Only you know you really. So, anyway, I know those are the areas I am trying to heal from.

Either seek medical attention if this is a mental illness thing or therapy of some kind. I am not sure where those insecurities comes from with you, but I know where mine do. So search where they come from with a therapist maybe and please please seek medical help if you think this is mental illness related. Its very important. Hope this helped!

-Christy

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talkingtodeadguys:

T2DG Perfectionist Tip : Acknowledging & Growing From Failure
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So you fucked up huh?

I’ve had a lot of failures in my life but it wasn’t until recently that I started seeing them as opportunities to grow opposed to opportunities to victimize myself. I still go through little phases in the midst of acknowledging failures where I break down, cry a little, and become overwhelmed with frustration, but I eventually get to a point where I look at my situation objectively.

There are things that I’ve bombed - jobs in retouching I’ve bombed, friendships I’ve bombed, some earlier readings I’ve bombed, and all sorts of things that forced me to take things into perspective. It has to because that’s how transformation works. Imagine if the entire world just stayed stagnant. Imagine it for a second.

There wouldn’t be buildings, cures for diseases, products you love, foods you adore, people that inspire you, roads, subways, businesses, families, books, movies, education, or even ‘love’ itself. Everything runs on a plethora of mistakes - everything. If we lived in a perfect utopic society we theoretically wouldn’t be allowed to make mistakes in ourselves. Fuck your tween phases when you thought that Hot Topic and Bring Me The Horizon or that one obsession you had that you no longer admit to was your life. You wouldn’t be allowed to make those mistakes on the trip to discovery. Kurt used to think that he was a straight edge Christian when he was alive. That’s on record. Let that sink in for a second. Christy also used to think she was introverted and I thought I was extroverted and that I was destined to be famous.

If it wasn’t for all of those blunders we would literally cease to exist.

I think the measure of a person is how often they’re willing to rise from their mistakes. I do, I really do. So I invite anyone to look at themselves, honestly, not in some half assed, “I’m not going to look at the things I don’t like,” way and find out what they can learn from. That’s why this blog is designed to have you evaluate yourself and ultimately depend on yourself for everything. No one knows you better than yourself.

So when you go through life, I think it’s much wiser to look at failures that make you cringe or launch you into pits of sadness (lul) and use them as opportunities. I sound so preachy right now but I know someone out there probably needs to hear this. Christy and Kurt are very, "Oh fucking well, life goes on," about the whole thing. According to their philosophy on life they think that it doesn’t pay to make things so dramatic. Like I could be crying from the fact that I blew $23 on food that I didn’t end up eating at Warped Tour today. I’m wincing but I’m good.

So we say -

Don’t cry. Grow mothafucka. Do you want an eye roll from someone you know? No, I don’t think you want that.

Self evaluate, learn (meaning you take what you’ve acknowledged and apply it to the next similar situation that presents itself), and roll on.

- Kami

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